Thursday, December 30, 2010

New Year, New Habits

Khloe, Kim, and Kourtney Kardashian

I find it hard to believe that 2010 is coming to an end already. This year literally flew by for me! I won't say it has been one of the best, but I at least made it to see another. That in itself is a reason to be happy. My resolution is to do everything the way I want to this year instead of trying to satisfy everyone else. I'm also trying to give up sodas which I actually started last week. I know alot of people no longer make resolutions, but how do you feel about making them?

If you have a New Year's Resolution, leave your comments here and share it with us. Maybe you can give someone else a resolution to choose from. Even if you don't have a resolution, set a goal for yourself to reach before 2011 ends and stick to until it has been accomplished. Don't allow yourself to fall into old habits... You have to be proactive to be progressive.

This year I will more than likely be sitting at home watching all the New Years Eve events on tv with my son. What are your New Year's Eve plans or traditions? In whatever you all do, make sure you're safe and enjoying yourself. Happy New Year Everyone!!


Tuesday, December 28, 2010

Winter Gloves for Boss Chics

I don't know about anyone else but I used to HATE gloves. They get in the way of my texting, lip gloss dipping, and eating lol. I just hate having to take them off and put them back on whenever I need to use my hands. Well boss chics, I have found some really fly cutoffs, fingerless gloves, arm warmers and hand warmers to get us through the winter. Like I said if you have to be cold all winter, you might as well floss on em in the process! #bawse *Rick Ross voice*

Rihanna in fingerless gloves

Let It Go

Kanye West & ex Amber Rose

Too many times do we find ourselves in a relationship that should have been deadened a long time ago. There are so many situations where a person may be holding on to a relationship that just is not meant to be. Most of the time we are aware that the relationship should be over, but we still try to make it work. Why? For the sake of love of course, possibly even lust. Sometimes I even find that we will go the extra mile for our relationships just because we don't want to be alone.

Whatever the reason may be, if you know you are in a relationship that should have ended prior to now it's time to reevaluate your situation and LET IT GO! Below I've listed the types of people that need to be cut off. So if you feel the person you're dating may be one of these then it's time to chuck the deuces!

Monday, December 27, 2010

Must Have Winter Hats

Kim K

Majority of the people I know prefer summer over winter, but I think every one can agree that winter is the best season for fashion. Boots, coats, hats, gloves, scarves, etc can all make or break your outfit. My next few posts will be of this season's accessories to help you boss chics stay fly throughout the winter. Below I've listed some of this season hottest hat styles. Check them out and let me know what you think!

Thursday, December 23, 2010

How Do You Celebrate?

Ahhhh it's my favorite time of the year (minus the weather) and Christmas is finally almost here! With the best day of the year only two days away, I felt the need to share what Christmas means to me. First of all, no one should EVER forget that Jesus is the reason for the season. Without his birth, Christmas would not exist. We would have nothing to give or receive. We would not even be here today. So make sure you give thanks to the man above and his son for giving you a reason to celebrate!

Rhinestone Bracelets

First of all, I apologize for the delay in posts. Everyone knows how hectic things get when the holidays come! So thanks for being patient with me. Anywho, rhinestone bracelets and bangles (as seen above on Keyshia Cole) are a trend that have been in for awhile, and they don't seem to go away. They can be found in different, colors, shapes, and sizes so they easily pair up with different outfits. These are one of my favorite accesories, so below I've listed a few that may catch your eye.

Keyshia Cole again (SN: Shoutout to Boobie Gibson for that rock on her finger!)

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Military Boots for the Winter

This winter it seems as if military boots are replacing all others as the casual boot of the season. These are probably my favorite type of boots because of the variety of styles. They give that sexy, rebellious vibe. They range from flat casual boots, to wedges and stilettos. You can also find many celebrities rocking these styles like Nicki Minaj and Ciara pictured above in Brian Atwood Military Buckle Boots. I already have mine for the season, but here are a few different pair that I liked and thought I'd share with my readers. Hope you enjoy!

Thursday, December 9, 2010

[Sneak Peek] Kanye West's Monster video ft Nicki M, Jay Z, & Rick Ross

A sneak preview of Kanye's Monster video has been released at HipHop Connection. Monster is one of the hottest 2010 rap collabs with Nicki Minaj, Rick Ross, and rap heavyweight Jay Z. When I heard there was a video in the making I knew it was going to be epic. Let me just be the first to say this video is going to be BANANAS! I love Kanye's artistic expressions, so I can't wait to see the full video. However I know many will feel like this video is too satanic. Catch the preview below:

SN: Ye loves adding fuel to these Illuminati rumors ^_^

Monday, December 6, 2010

When Love Turns to Abuse

Domestic violence can happen to anyone, yet it is usually overlooked, ignored, or excused. This is especially common when the abuse is psychological rather than physical. We all have either been in this situation or know someone who has been in this situation. We have to stick together to get this out there; too many times have people come out and told their stories only to be ridiculed or not believed. This has to stop!

Here are the top ten signs of an abusive relationship:
1. Jealousy or possessiveness- Accuses you of cheating with co-workers, friends, etc.
2. Controlling- becomes overly demanding of your time; puts you on a schedule
3. Manipulates you by calling you crazy to make you feel sorry for them
4.Lies to make you feel sorry for them
5. Uses real life situations such as family deaths or job loss to gain sympathy
6. Disrespects the opposite gender
7. Has a history- abusers seek out victims who seem easy to control
8. Superiority- they always have to be right and in control
9. Punishment- Gives silent treatment, or causes physical abuse when they feel you are wrong
10. Unwilling to seek help- They do not think anything is wrong with their actions

In order to get away from an abusive situation, you have to recognize the fact that you are being abused.  An abuser's main objective is one thing only: To obtain and maintain control over its subject. If you ever feel afraid of your partner, or afraid to do or say certain things out of fear of your partner's reaction then you are more than likely in an abusive relationship. Also if your partner yells at you, puts you down, criticizes you, or treats you as property instead of their lover, nine times out of ten your relationship is abusive as well. No one should ever give away their own freedom to keep the peace in their relationship. Nor should anyone have to endure any mental or physical pain for the sake of love.

The three main types of abuse are physical, emotional, and financial. Many partners put physical damage in places that would be covered in clothing, so the abuse is not noticeable. Therefore, if you suspect that someone close to you is being abused, pay close attention to any bruises that may be hidden. In my opinion, emotional abuse can be more damaging than physical. It can lead to self loathing, feelings of loneliness, and anxiety and depression. Many times the abusive partner may make the victim feel like everything is his/her fault, or may threaten to cause harm if their secret is exposed. This makes it easy for the victim to justify the abusive partner's actions. Sometimes abusive partners even isolate their victims from friends and family, often leading the victims to believe that they have no one to turn to. In some cases, abusers even withhold finances from their partner in order to gain financial control in the relationship. That way, they can control their partners' every move.

Domestic violence becomes a cycle starting with the initial altercation. Once the abuse is done, the abuser begins to show remorse and makes promises to change. But always remember that abusers will stop the behavior when it is benefitting them. They have to retract their statements and act guilty in order to make their partners stay. If you happen to know anyone who is in this situation, try to help them. Listen to what they tell you. Offer help and be supportive of his or her decisions so they will know that they are NOT alone. And if you happen to be in an abusive relationship but feel like you have no way out,  stay motivated, pray and know that you deserve better. You don't have to live like that. Too many people in the world are carrying on baggage from past abusive relationships or experiences and passing these psychological issues on to their children. "It's hard to look for light when you're lost in darkness." Be motivated... #stopthecycle

If you or anyone you know is in an abusive relationship call 1-800-799-SAFE(7233) for free confidential help, or you can visit The National Domestic Violence Hotline for any questions and concerns.

-LaBellaBoss <3

Friday, December 3, 2010

Minnie Muse with Forever21

Minnie Muse Sunglass Sweater $19.80

Hey my Boss Chics! For all the fashionistas out there, Forever21 has teamed up with the legendary Minnie Mouse for a line called Minnie Muse. Minnie Mouse is one of those few cartoon characters that can actually be stylishly incorporated into clothing. Not only are these items fashion forward, but also a nice price. Check out a few more of the pieces:

Friday, November 26, 2010

~Happy Thanksgiving~

I know some of the Boss Chics were up at 2 a.m. doing whatever it was they needed to do, be it, work, leaving a party or family members, attempting to get that beauty sleep, taking care of  "business" yeah u know what kind at 2 a.m. ha ha, or standing in line for the Black Friday Sales! Whatever was floating your boat today I hope you remembered to give Thanks for the day before and all through the weekend. Everyday for that matter, but particularly this weekend.  See, there are some Boss Chics who are making sacrifices right now to one day reap the benefits of relaxing and shopping, and I want to SALUTE them as well as the Boss Chics who are enjoying their weekend! We have a lot to be thankful for, minus the materials/stereotypes that are advertised during this week! But remember that what's really important, is all the things that you do have. Real Success, is being humble with what you already have and not focusing on the have nots. 

Me, myself, I'm thankful for life, because somebody that was around last year, isn't this year. I'm thankful for my friends, because they happen to be some of the most *positive* people in my life, and they encourage me so much. I'm thankful for my job, even though, its part time and it barely pays the bill, I'm a BOSS, I make it work for me, and so many people are *struggling* to find one.  I'm thankful for my FAMILY, so many families are dysfunctional, and discouraging, but I happen to have a GREAT one, even though they are still dysfunctional.  When it comes down to it, if I need them, they are there. I'm thankful for my MAN! Gosh, Boss Chics, if you are blessed with a man, that will do anything to take care of you and your family, be thankful. There are so many *CHICKS* (Lesson: Chic= Classy...Chick= Chickens) who want a sample of that, so this weekend, just be thankful, we will deal with his mess on a later date. :)  And I am THANKFUL that GOD gave us a SON that DIED for our sins. This is so overlooked by most people that they don't even consider how much of a sacrifice that is.  We can barely sacrifice a soda for a day. Can you IMAGINE what all he has done in our life?

So this post is saluting those who are blessed enough to go out and have a good time this weekend. But for the ones who are out making sacrifices, or seem like you are at a point where your *BOSS* tank is on empty, Give THANKS anyway! Look Around! WE LOVE YOU! We see you trying and we are thankful that you get to live to see another day! Also, take the time this weekend and be of service to someone. Call somebody you haven't called in a long time, smile at someone, offer a compliment! I guarantee they will be thankful for it.

Be Safe, Enjoy yourself, No drinking and driving, Protect Yourself, Cherish Every Moment, Enjoy the meal that I know you are thankful for, a lot of love went into that! Stay POSITIVE!
How Thankful Are YOU????

Let US Boss Chics KNOW!

Now take this to the Cabinet and File IT! Under Thankful, that is :)

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

It Takes Two Baby!

I'm sure everyone is aware of the drama between Fantasia, Antwaun Cook and his wife Paula. If not then here's the rundown... Fantasia was found to be in an 11 month relationship with Antwaun during his marriage to Paula. When his wife found out, she ended up filing a lawsuit against Fantasia for Alienation of Affection. Believe it or not, this is actually legal in North Carolina. However, Fantasia says that he never told her that he was married. Bottom line he is obviously the source of the problem, so why is she suing Fantasia??

How many times have we seen this scenario: Guy and Wifey are in a relationship. Guy cheats with Her. Wifey finds out and gets mad at Her but stays with Guy. Or better yet they find out about each other and BOTH continue to date him. Now I can't answer for anyone else, but this equation just doesn't add up to me. Sad thing is, I'm sure all of us have either been one of the people in this situation or know someone that has been. I won't say that everyone who finds out about their other half cheating stays, but I guarantee they get mad at the person he/she is cheating with.

I find this to be more typical with women more than men, I'm sure it's because of our cattiness. I know I know, it's the way we are but we really need to do better. Think about it like this, your man is the person whose loyalty lies with you. She doesn't owe you anything. You put your trust in him, not her. So get mad at him... NOT her. Now if she happens to be a friend or someone you're close to then that's a different story for a different post lol!

Really for all you know, he could be kicking all types of game to her.. "man we don't get down like that no more"... "Nah she be bugging, I had to let her go".... Ooooh how about "Naw we just friends, I'm not really trying to settle down right now" lmao that's for another post too! In a nutshell, stop getting mad at the wrong person! How dumb do we look ready to fight over a man because he been creeping, then 5 whole days later we back with him ready to tie the knot if he asks lol. Quote of the day: "It takes two to tango" #POW!

-LaBellaBoss ;*

Thursday, November 11, 2010

Like Boss Girls Do!

fashion.jpg FaShion image by foreverplaid13

Well Hello World! Welcome to The Boss Chic Files, dedicated to all of the baddest, flyest, dopest boss chics out there. For those that don't know (get with it if you don't), boss chics are on a whole different level than the rest. They carry themselves like they can't be touched, they whip their hair, they dress impeccably from head to toe, and they have a high self respect for themselves. See every woman THINKS she is a boss chic but we all know that's not even the case. 

Now don't get me wrong, I've seen many women who are fierce, dress nice, and yeah they have the look on point but what about the attitude? That's where half the chics that THINK they got it are wrong. Every woman needs to understand that the attitude is really what makes you. It's about being humble with it and giving credit to the next chic instead of tearing her down.!! With that said women also fail to realize that you need to be about your business at all times. If you're on your grind and focused on your come up, you won't have time to wait for someone else's downfall. 

I decided to start this blog to bring something different to the table that everyone can relate to. I plan on posting about different things such as relationships, life, friendships, music, fashion, and beauty etc. You can expect tips on fashion and beauty, fashionable looks for less, relationship and life advice, and music posts with new music from different artist. From time to time, I'll get some of my girls to post as well so be on the lookout for more. I'm hoping to expand this one day, but for now I'm just writing for fun. Enjoy, refer a friend, and refrain from any negativity. Thanks!!

Lesson of the Day: If you're good at what you do, don't get mad when she is too... Get better. #POW!