Friends, Foes, and Frenemies

So who watched tonight's season premiere of Basketball Wives? All I can say is drama, drama, drama! First of all how old are these women? If they like it I love it because they sure are my entertainment! I'm pretty sure some of it is scripted but the main thing I want to talk about is the relationships/friendships between these women.

Coming into the episode Suzie was up to her usual antics of trying to be the middle man between everyone. I thought it was quite funny when Royce called her out about how fake she is... Suzie didn't know what to say! She irks my nerves more than anyone else on the show. Then when the new girls met Jennifer, she acted like they had something to prove to her. I guess they take that circle very seriously lol.

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What Goes Around Comes Back Around, Hey My Baby



T.O. treated Mo & Kita horribly... now he's lonely and broke smh


Karma is real! I could start the post with that and end it with the same three words and it still wouldn't be enough to get it through the heads of many people out here. Just about every day, I'm seeing statuses on facebook and twitter about how real karma is and how this or that person is just going to sit back and watch karma get back those who have done them wrong in the past. I too believe strongly in karma; I'm always posting about how what you put out is what you get back and how you should treat others how you want them to treat you.

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[Positive Monday] Where My Girls At?



Happy Monday Bosses and Boss Chics! I never thought I would say this but I have been looking forward to this week and I am actually glad that today is Monday! First of all let me start by reiterating that my 23rd birthday is this Wednesday lol. I have so much to look forward to and every reason to be positive! On top of my birthday being in two days, my best friend and I have decided to take a trip to Charlotte this coming Saturday so we can celebrate my birthday with a little fun. Not to mention that I have "invested" in two pair of shoes in the past week, one of which should be here any day, so new shoes always equal a good mood :)

Normally I spend my birthdays in Richmond for the weekend with all my best friends, not that I don't love that but I'm excited to be doing something different this year. Also I'm going to be treating myself to a full body massage on Wednesday morning just for my big day. My best friend and I also went and got manis and pedis this weekend. We did a little shopping on Saturday in Winston, and went out locally Saturday night. I ended up having a really good time; and after getting my hair straightened for the first time since October, I'm surprised it didn't poof up!

Yesterday for Super Bowl Sunday, my best friend and I went to church then to Olive Garden for lunch. She of course dragged me to the mall (she's the shopaholic not me! lol) and when we got back home she had a brilliant idea of us throwing a Super Bowl party at 5:30 pm lol! Considering that the Super Bowl started at 6:30 this wasn't much of a heads up for us but we got it done! We ended up making nacho dip as well as pigs in a blanket. Of course you can't forget the Coronas with the snacks! We had originally planned to make brownies but after stuffing our faces we couldn't eat any more lol. Mind you this was only a two person party lol, but we had fun nonetheless.

Of course there's a message with every #PositiveMonday post and this one is no different. This weekend made me realize how important it is to have a good friend in your life. My best friend Tia and I have been friends since I can remember, and yes we have a lot in common but we are two distinctly different people. That's what makes the dynamics of our friendship so unbreakable. We rarely ever look at situations the same, but we give each other our opinions, respect them and keep it moving. Nothing we tell each other is ever meant to harm the other, we genuinely look out for the other and vice versa. It's so hard to come by true friends, so when you know you have one you should definitely appreciate them always.

I've been through many friends throughout the years, but this one, as well as the other 3 I have, has stuck with me through thick and thin and I wouldn't trade their crazy selves for the world! Do you have certain friends that have been in the picture through it all, and they're still there?? Hit us up and let us know and check out a few pics from my weekend below!

XOXO,
LaBellaBoss ♥

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Religion VS. Spirituality

Have you ever realized that the most religious people are the least spiritual? They get so caught up in the technicalities of their certain religion that they forget about the spiritual side of things. These are the ones who force their religious practices on you, and criticize you when you don't follow their practices. Everyone knows someone who is deep in the church, but is the biggest hypocrite or so judgmental that they don't even give people a chance.

Now I am a firm believer in God and I do make a conscious effort to do the right thing, but of course like anyone else I'm far from perfect. I make mistakes and I sin just like anyone else. Well I had someone tell me that because I don't do everything right in God's eyes that there is no need for me to even go to church... wait what?? Isn't that why they tell you to come as you are and that the church is open to everyone? Better yet, since when does actually going to church make you any more holy than anyone else? It doesn't if you're criticizing and judging the lives of others.

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...So I Know It's Real!

Not too long ago on twitter there was a trending topic that said #SoIKnowItsReal that was basically imitating the MMG song "Tattoo my name so I know it's real". This trending topic was built for people to tweet things that they wanted someone to do for them to let them know the love/relationship is real. I ended up going in on this for awhile and made jokes about it because I thought it was pretty funny. Yesterday my best friend Tia and I were joking about it, and we said that basic b*tches would say "Put a hickie on my neck #soIknowitsreal" LOL!

This made me wonder what makes people feel like their relationships are the real deal? At what point do you know for sure that certain person really cares about you? I don't think there's really a defining moment for me, but there are moments that lead up to me seeing that someone really cares. Like if they do little things just to make me smile or go out of their way to call me even when they're busy, then that makes me pretty happy and I feel like that person might genuinely care. As I said, I really pay attention to detail so if a guy goes out of his way to bring me lunch or something like that on more than one occasion then maybe we're on to something.

It's not just the little things that matter though, the big things play a part as well. Shoot introduce to me ya mama #soIknowitsreal lol. These tweets were hilarious but at the same time they spoke the truth about what a real relationship should be like. When someone really cares about you, you definitely know. And I don't mean today they show it and then tomorrow they don't. You'll really know. But this made me ask, what would you expect or want someone to do for you to show you it's real? I surely don't want anyone tattooing my name, but I'll list a few of mine below. Feel free to leave a comment and do the same! Don't be ashamed about it, it's all fun and games over here :)

Check out my list below!

XOXO,

LaBellaBoss ♥

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Love In A Hopeless Place



Rihanna, Rihanna, Rihanna... she absolutely BROUGHT IT with her new video for "We Found Love"! I know I'm a few days behind on the post, but I can relate to this video so much that I knew my commentary would be long. This video gave me LIFE! Rihanna is doing her thing and paving her own way in the music industry. I love her F it attitude, her realness, her playful spirit, and her beauty! If you ask me, she's a legend in the making!

Anywho, let me hop of the Rihanna stan wagon real quick and focus on the video lol. It was epic! The visual and the storyline that she gave were undeniably real and raw. The depictions of the drugs throughout the video shows how toxic a relationship can be. That high from lust may feel good, but it's definitely not always good for you. Their relationship started off as something that looks sweet, innocent and fun; but soon turns destructive and becomes a downward spiral. As they become more and more addicted to each other (and depictions of drugs increase), the initial high of the relationship wears off. It's like they're trying to get that inital high back, so they can't let go of each other... kind of like an addict continues to use drugs in hopes of getting back that first high.

Throughtout the video, he becomes more and more aggresive, causing their relationship to become tumultuous. But yet, she can't let go. Boy have I been in this situation before! It's like you get in a relationship where everything is going perfectly, then as you get to know that person more and more you start to see them for what they really are and vice versa. No matter how bad things get, sometimes you just can't let go and you deal with the bad in hopes of one day getting the good back. I'm sure everyone has been in this type of relationship before, and it's SO unhealthy. But when you're in that situation you don't see it as such.

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This Little Game We Play

You know they say men and women alike love a chase, right? I have to agree in every way! I was thinking about this last night, and it hit me just how much we all love a good chase. How often do we find ourselves going after that one person who shows us the least interest? Now I'm not saying that we go for the worst possible people lol, but I do think we go for those that give us a chase rather than those who are readily available to us.

Think about it like this, if there are two guys/girls that you're into but one calls and texts you faithfully and the other does randomly but not all the time... which will you be into more? In this situation I'm not speaking of any serious relationships, but say you're just getting to know both. I can't speak for everyone else (and I may be backwards myself), but I would probably more interested in the person who I don't hear from as often. That person would just seem more intriguing to me, and personally I love a challenge. I'm not the type of person who wants someone who runs at my beck and call lol, so I do find myself "chasing thrills" more often than I should! I can honestly say most of the time I come out losing thinking like this, but hey at least I can be honest about it! Lol

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Let Go To Get One



How many times do we find ourselves waiting to make it official with someone that we really like or love? We all know how it is, you find the one that really catches your attention and while they may not be the most perfect person in the world, they fit you. After awhile feelings get involved, but things still never progress and you find yourself stuck in the same position time after time. You feel like you should hold on because you have developed a special bond with that person, but at the same time you feel like you'll never take it to the next level. Sound relateable?

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Seeing Double

How can you not love Tia and Tamera though?? I grew up a big fan of Sister Sister, and looked up to Tia and Tamera Mowry all my life. They're the epitome of young, empowering women and I love how they grew up in the industry but stayed true to their values and morals. With all the drama from part two of the Basketball Wives reunion tonight, I'm not sure if anyone caught Tia and Tamera's reality show or not but I made sure not to miss it.

This has become one of my favorite shows on tv right now, and is by far my favorite reality show. It centers around Tamera's wedding to her long time love, Adam Housley, as well as Tia's first pregnancy with her husband Corey Hardrict. The show really enlightens viewers on the relationship these two sisters share, including the good and bad. They definitely have their moments where they don't agree, but the love they have for one another is so evident.

Tia and Tamera are definitely goofy and down to earth! Tamera pulls a bridezilla on more than one occasion, while Tia struggles with incorporating her pregnancy into her daily life. They have a few disputes because Tamera feels that Tia hasn't been there throughout her wedding dilemmas, while Tia argues that she's pregnant which makes it difficult. They're both going through a very dramatic, life changing period in life, and they have a difficult time making room for the other sister's needs. Despite it all, you can tell that both women have their heads straight on their shoulders and have the other one's best interest at heart. Not to mention each have supportive men by their sides... #winning! I sooo want them to win in life, just because they never let Hollywood change them!

If you're not already a fan of the show, I suggest that everyone give it a try. They are super funny and real, and more than anything they're NORMAL people with normal issues. The show comes on every Monday night at 9 PM on the Style Network. If a basic show like Basketball Wives can have record breaking numbers in viewers, then so can a reality show that shines a positive light on black women. On that note #ImOut.

XOXO,

LaBellaBoss <3

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Being A Boss Chic vs. Chasing Boss D***



The original boss chic Kelis "I'm bossy!"



First of all isn't the title of this post hilarious?? LOL anyway, every woman in the world thinks she's a boss chic right? And rightfully so because she should, but there is a distinct difference between REAL boss chics that seperate them from the rest. If you need to refer back to my very first post to see my definition of a boss chic then just click that link. Now to add to everything that makes a woman a "bawse", one thing that needs clarification is the difference between actually being a boss and chasing boss d*ck #letsbehonest. Let me break it down...

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Positive Monday... It's A Movement

If my alarm clock wasn't my cell phone, it would probably be looking like the pic above... I WANT MY BED!!! Lol oh yeah Happy Monday! But really though, I'm in desperate need of my bed, pillow and sheets right now! A bish is tired! And I really don't know why because I was in bed super early last night. Anyway, it's #PositiveMonday again and I wanted to share with you a few good things going on around me that make me feel very positive for myself.

This past Friday my little sister from another mother Meyonka left for college for her freshman year! I'm so excited for her, especially since she's the first college student to go away in her family! I can't wait to see all that she accomplishes this year and in the years to come! Also one of my best friends, Kristen, moved out of her house for the first time, so I went to visit her yesterday. She has it set up so cute, and I know everything will work out for her! On top of that, my closest friend Tia has a job interview this week that I KNOW she's going to get (I mean she is a boss chic after all *winks*). She already has a bachelor's degree so this job would be her first big job in her field of work. I'm so excited for all three of my friends!

Sometimes absolutely nothing could be going on in your life, but it could be a lot going on for the people around you. I take to those people around me to find my inspiration and strive to be better. My life is pretty uneventful for right now (and I'm glad lol), but I know soon enough things will pick up speed again for me. Many people get jealous of those around them when things are picking up for others and not themselves. If you find yourself in a situation like that, always be happy for those around you because your blessings are coming. Be thankful that you actually surround yourself with people who are striving to do better every day, and if not you not to reevaluate your circle!!

QOTD: "Surround yourself with people that are only going to lift you higher." - Oprah Winfrey

SN: Make sure you click below for the #PositiveMonday video for the day!!

XOXO,

LaBellaBoss <3

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Charge It To My Head, Not My Heart



I was listening to my local radio station 102 Jamz this morning on my way to work, and every morning they have a section called "Girl Talk". I love listening to different radio shows and hearing other people's opinions on social and relationship issues. This morning the topic was something that I'm constantly debating with myself about as well as others. I'm sure I'm not the only one who thinks about this either! I have to ask you guys, when dealing with relationships is it better to go by your head or your heart??

Of course I can't just answer this simply, lol I can't only pick one. I think it's necessary to use both, depending on the actual situation. By only using the head instead of the heart , people can't really be happy or in love in my opinion. They would be constantly running from the relationship when the smallest problems arise. Those who think this way usually carry the mindstate that they need to get out before they get left or something goes wrong. Don't get me wrong, this group of people are usually the ones who are very headstrong and independent. But at the same time they usually find themselves single, yet steady saying they don't need a man/woman lol #justsayin.

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Positive Mondays!

Me & my little cousin Talea.. Hadn't seen her in almost 2 years!



Happy Monday!! I woke up feeling EXTREMELY positive today and rightfully so! First of all I woke up this morning! There are so many people in this world who will not see today, but I am here. I'm at my decent paying job, and even though I don't really CARE for it, there are so many people who have no job at all. Those same people also have children to feed, bills to pay, and need money to live on just like me. So I am blessed to be here another day and to have a good job!

Remember last weekend was my family reunion on my dad's side? Well this weekend I had a few family members from my mom's side to come in town that I hadn't seen in awhile. I LOVE FAMILY! There is never a dull moment, and this weekend was so much fun. We cooked out both Friday and Saturday, and my aunt cooked this delicious Sunday dinner. And on top of that everyone got along great, and had a good time just catching up and vibing to good music.

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We Are Family

I know, I know... I've definitely been slacking this week on the Boss Chic Files smh, but I was busy enjoying all the 4th of July festivities and time with family. To make up for it I thought I would recap my weekend and holiday because it was just that epic! :-P

First of all the family reunion for my paternal grandfather's family was this weekend. Now this is the one side of my family where I really don't know anyone except those that still live in our hometown. Every year they had family reunions in the past, I was always gone to the beach with my mom's family for our annual beach house trip. Anyway, I wasn't initially thrilled about giving my 4th of July weekend away to distant family that I didn't know because I thought everyone would be much older than myself. I got fooled! I met different cousins that I didn't even know I had and they were mostly right around my age. Also one of my cousins from Ohio came home, whom I hadn't seen in at least 12 years (Crazy right??) If you know me, you know I get so excited about meeting different family members because I think it's so cool to see how differently we all grew up. Needless to say, I knew the weekend was going to be a good one after all.

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It's A Thin Line... B/t Friends & Associates

How often do we see certain women hanging with a specific crew and you wonder when they became friends? Or you see someone with a different clique in each of their facebook albums?? lol but I'm serious! One of the things that irritates me more than anything else, is when someone claims to be friends with every Ashley, Brittany, and Jennifer (the most general names I could think of lol). I can never understand how anyone can put trust in more than one group of friends, and I never will. If you ask me it's in the way and it's a certified way to keep drama in your life.

Think about it like this, if you're constantly running with different crews, who will trust you? I'm thinking no one in their right mind would. For all we know you could be going back and forth between different friends, telling different things and putting everyone out there. It's easy to repeat what you hear to someone that you hang with and think you can trust. So it's easy to slip and tell Nicki from your weekend crew that Keisha from your main crew is cheating on her boyfriend with someone else. Then when Nicki tells the other people in her crew (people that you might not necessarily trust) and it gets out that Nicki told it, then guess who Keisha's gonna be mad at? Yep it would be you because she'll KNOW you put her business out there because you're the only person she talks to that hangs with Nicki. Hotmess.com

On top of that you could also be putting yourself out there by hanging with different people all the time. I know how quick we all are to say that someone isn't our friend but just an associate, but really how thin is the line between associates and friends? If you try to make a point that someone is ONLY an associate, then stop carrying them like a friend. Far too often do I see women validating their reasons for hanging with a certain person by saying "they're only an associate". Yet at the same time, they tell this person their own business and they hang with this person regularly. No my dear, that is not an associate that is a friend. If you don't want to give someone the friend title in your life, then don't carry them as a friend! Point. Blank.

I had to learn the hard way that you honestly cannot trust everyone. As much as you like to believe that everyone is a friend and they have your best interest at heart, they don't. Plain and simple. Women can be very vindictive and if you don't associate yourself with REAL people who mean you well, then you will get screwed over time and time again in life. Believe it or not, people do have ulterior motives at times so be careful who you choose to spend your time and energy with. You never know which one of your "associates" could be trying to get your man, take your job, or bring you down just because. This leads me to ask are associates even necessary in life?? Let us know what you think!

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Happy Father's Day!!



First of all I'd like to wish a Happy Father's Day to all the real men out there who work hard to take care of their children!! Sadly not enough men own up to their responsibilities as fathers,  leaving many children to grow up in single parent homes or with someone else altogether. Having a father around is so essential to a child's life, so every man should WANT to take good care of their children so they can be better people when they grow up. In honor of the great fathers out there, I found some pics of celebrity dads spending time with their kids either out and about or at red carpet events. I love seeing fathers spending time with their children, it warms my heart... Check below for pics of  some true "bosses" below!

Happy Father's Day!!

XOXO,

LaBellaBoss <3

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What About Your Friends?

Did anyone else watch Basketball Wives last night? (SN: LOL at their faces ^^^!) From the looks of my twitter timeline I think everyone did lol. One of the things that blew me the most was when Jennifer got upset with Royce for following her ex Eric on twitter and for tweeting him! First of all twitter is a public social network and the conversations between Eric and Royce were public to all their followers. She then went on to say that anything could have been said between them in DM's (direct messages for those of you hiding under a rock with no twitter lol)... Evelyn even agreed that she would never have done that, and for obvious reasons. Jennifer and Evelyn are best friends, Royce and Jennifer don't even get along or hang together. So why is Jennifer mad??

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Playing Your Position VS. Playing Dumb



Oprah & Stedman have never been married and are still
going strong... #playingtheirposition


I don't know if it's just me or does it seem like relationships barely exist nowadays?? I won't go into the whole title thing because that brings up a whole other discussion, but hear me out on this. I only know a handful of people who are actually in a committed relationship with someone and their relationship is public. Everyone else falls into a category that I like to call "arrangements". I consider "arrangements" to be those people who keep their relationship on the low, whether it may be to keep everyone out of their business or because they're doing all they can lol. This leads me to ask, when it comes to "playing your position" do you play it well or do you just play dumb?

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No Expectations = No Disappointments



I was sitting in my car this morning listening to my local radio station (doing all I can not to walk in to my job LOL) when I heard an interview that was done a few days ago. I'm not sure if the guy they were talking to was a relationship expert or anything, but he said something that really stood out to me. He said that relationships between men and women struggle so much because we put too much expectations on each other. He then went on to say if women want someone who will be as emotional, caring, and gentle as themselves then they might as well get a woman. And if a man wants someone who will be laid back and nonchalant with little to no drama like themselves then they may as well be with a man. Why? Because women and men are nothing alike.

Now that may sound crazy, but I think he is 100% correct. Before ya'll get yours panties in a bunch lol, let me make clear in no way am I say we all should just jump up and convert our sexuality to same sex.  Not gonna happen over here. What I'm saying is, maybe we ARE expecting too much from our partners. Of course everyone wants their significant other (bf/gf, husband/wife, play thing of the week, etc) to be PERFECT. You can deny this all you want, but it's true. We want our partner to do absolutely everything we ask, exactly how we want it, and right then and there. We want them to jump the moon and come back down for us in 10 minutes. This is fine and dandy until they start expecting the same thing back, and what happens when you can't deliver as expected?

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Weekly Horoscope 5/24-5/31

I'm the type of person who is big on the zodiacs and who reads their horoscope on a daily basis. It's such a big deal to me that I even have my friends checking their horoscopes daily as well lol. A lot of times (more often than not) my horoscope is on point. It blows my mind how it's usually always pertaining to something I'm dealing with. I know many people don't believe in the signs of the stars, but nonetheless it's still kinda fun to see what they say. On that note, I've decided to try something new by posting weekly horoscopes for each zodiac sign. I'll try to do it every Monday to start off each week, but if not they will be up some time before that week is out. You can get your horoscope for this week below after the break.

Xoxo,

LaBellaBoss <3 

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