We're Moving On Up!

I don't know what I was thinking but I forgot to do one last post through this blog to update the readers on the new blog! I had been tweeting and posting about the change on facebook, but I didn't think to actually write a blog about it since most people use these social networks. So my apologies to those who weren't aware!

Most people already know, but my blog has moved from here to a new location! I finally purchased my own domain so you can visit the blog directly at http://www.bosschicfiles.com/ now. I'm so excited about it and what's to come for the BCF! I hope you guys enjoy the new site and please share your thoughts with us so we can make it better in the future!

XOXO,

LaBellaBoss ♥

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[Positive Monday] Education is Everything

I mentioned in #PositiveMonday post from earlier today that I had went to talk to my advisor about my plans to continue school for my bachelor's degree, and I wanted to elaborate on my journey through school thus far. I know I said I really didn't have anything motivational to say, but I thought about all the struggling college students like myself and thought I would speak on the subject a tad.

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[Positive Monday] Kick Off Your Shoes...

Whazzup, whazzup, whazzupppp!! *Martin voice* lol.. Man it feels like it's been forever and a day since I've written a blog, and from what I'm used to it has! My laptop died on me the week before last and I've been trying to get it fixed, only to find out that I need a whole new motherboard. Now I think I'm going to replace the motherboard and keep it another year or two before I actually get a new one. That laptop has EVERYTHING dealing with the Boss Chic Files on it, so I may as well keep it around for awhile :)

I know it's Positive Monday, but I have not done anything in the past week that may give you any motivation. LOL don't judge me but I seriously have been relaxing with my feet up for like the past week. I loved every minute of it! Not only did I release my body from any work, but I released my mind as well. I have had the most stress free past few days, so I'm feeling very rejuvenated on this beautiful Monday. On top of that today is supposed to be 60 degrees, then for the next three days it's going to be in the high 60's, almost 70! Now ya'll know I love my warm weather, so I'm stoked about that!

I also received an unexpected financial blessing over the weekend and of course you can't go wrong with that. I also went to meet with my advisor last week, and I'm happy to say I'll be starting my studies for my bachelor's degree at ODU in the summer... and I have decided to go with a professional writing major, hopefully one day expanding the blog and my writing skills :)

I would love for you all to leave comments with positive things that have happened to you in the past week or in life period that you want to share. It always makes me feel good to know that the people around me have good things going for themselves and lots to look forward to!

SN: My birthday is next Wednesday, February 8th... I shall be 23. You know just in case ya'll wanna surprise me with gifts, flowers and candy LOL

*throws shades on*

XOXO,

LaBellaBoss ♥

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[Positive Mondays] Follow Your Dreams

Happy Monday Bosses and Boss Chics! As we all know today is Martin Luther King Jr Day so we have to first start our positive monday by giving thanks to the man who changed EVERYTHING for us. Without him and his dream, without his hard work and determination, our world wouldn't be the way it is at all right now. Not to say we wouldn't have eventually gotten to this point, but he made everything possible by not giving up. His dream means everything to me, and I hope we as a society live up to the dream and work to make it even better in the future.

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Change Comes Eventually

Celebs on NYE

Happy New Year bosses and boss chics! I hope everyone brought it in safely and in good spirits. With the new year comes constant talk of changing for the better, changing ways, changing habits... All you see on Facebook and twitter statuses is change. On the contrary, you also see people posting about how we shouldn't wait until the new year to make changes that we know already should be made, which I totally agree with.

Since many make New Year's resolutions that they plan to stick to every year, I think this holiday is the one that is most centered around change and self reflection. But what I think we fail to realize is that we have to actually want to change in order to make it happen. How many times have you made a new year's resolution only to break it after a few weeks or months into the year? I do it all the time. More than anything it's because we're not actually ready for the change that we commit to, or we're not serious about getting there.

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Overtime On You Cuz I'm Going To Work!

*throws shades on like a bawse*

Good morning bosses and boss chics! I give you permission to talk junk to me for my lack of posts, I know I've slacked off for the past two weeks but I promise I still had you guys in my heart :) I just finished up my last semester before receiving my associates degree last week, and I've been taking time for myself to just do nothing for once. I guess it's time for me to get my head back in the game, a break is always good but if you make it too long you'll get lazy! Trust me I know lol.

Since I didn't  do a post yesterday, this kind of ties in to Positive Monday, but from experience I felt like it needed to be said. As I said before, I really took a break and did absolutely nothing during the time that I wasn't blogging. I mean I played random games on my phone, read on my Kindle, watched Christmas movies with Trey, hung out with my friends and a special guy, etc. I really took time out for myself to just get away from everything and it felt great.

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[Positive Monday] Not So Good, But Still So Good



Good morning bosses and boss chics! I hope everyone had a good weekend and is ready to start their Monday in a positive way! Yesterday I went to church and one of the other ministers in our church gave the message instead of our actual preacher. She spoke about how things we go through in life really don't seem good at all and are actually painful to us, but in the end they help us to turn our lives around in a good way.

Sometimes it feels like we are going through the worst of the worst in life, but in reality those hardships help to make us who we are. When you can get through difficult struggles in life and still come out on top, it says a lot about your character and personal strength. It also shows that you really have God by your side.

I tweeted the other day that I love hearing celebrities' personal come up stories, especially the ones who experienced more struggle because they make me want to push harder. Those are the ones that I give the most respect because they never gave themselves any excuses as to why they could not make it. We all have to remember that no success comes without struggle, and no good without bad. If we didn't experience any bad, how would we learn to appreciate the good in life?

When I think about the celebrities who went through the most to get where they are, I mainly think about Mary J Blige and Jay Z. They both had a very disturbing past but just in different lights. Mary J Blige has always been one of my favorite artists because she has never been afraid to share her story, the REAL story. I respect her music so much because it can get you through just about any hard time in life. Below I've posted a video of her performing one of my favorite songs by her... this one gets me through everything and is one of my favorite motivatial songs. Check it out below! Have a #PositiveMonday!!

XOXO,

LaBellaBoss ♥



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Kyla Pratt Blogs About Her Daughter



Last night I was reading Necole Bitchie's blog and stumbled across a statement that Kyla Pratt had released concerning her one year old daughter, Lyric Kai. I'm not sure if you all knew this, but Kyla had a baby girl last year around this time by her boyfriend, Danny Kirkpatrick, and released this info publicly on 106 & Park a few weeks ago. Since then, she has been receiving lots of negativity from the media as well as the public. She decided to take to her tumblr page to respond to all the hate she has been getting lately.

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[Positive Monday] What Matters Most...

Zoe Saldana & her sister serving the homeless at a shelter in LA for Thanksgiving

Although I wish I could go back to Wednesday and start my Thanksgiving break over again, we have to be thankful for the fact that we've been allowed to see another week. On that note I have to wish everyone a Positive Monday! Whew I really do not know where to start for this post lol, my break was much needed and EPIC. 

I went to my aunt's house in Fairfax, VA to spend Thanksgiving with my mom's family which is always a good time no matter what. I love getting to spend time with my younger cousins because we all live in different areas and don't get to see each other often. It's so exciting getting to stay up with them in the middle of the night exchanging stories about our hometowns and life issues. 

When I got back on Friday, I ended up going to a local spot in my small hometown by myself. I had had a really long day and just wanted to get out and clear my head a little so I got dressed up and went out alone. Even though I went by myself, I never actually felt like it was just me. I saw different people that I hadn't seen in awhile, and I can be very sociable in a party scene so I didn't feel awkard at all.

On Saturday my girls came home from Richmond and we all went out that night to the same local spot I had went to the night before. Being that we're from a small town, there's always drama whenever an event goes on. I'm just thankful to be able to say that it's never myself or my friends who are caught up in anything. It's funny because my friends and I are very different as individuals, but we all compliment each other so well.

Friends, family, and loved ones should always come first during the holidays. I'm so grateful to have spent mine with those who matter the most. Now of course during the holidays, there's usually drama that comes with it, but still the good times ended up being greater than the bad for me. I went through something pretty difficult for myself on Thanksgiving Day that made me look at life a little differently, but I'm thankful that I've formed a stronger backbone and have learned to speak up for myself when I don't believe something is right. 

I  had said that I was going to do a post on what I'm thankful for on Thanksgiving, but with traveling and all the festivities I didn't get time to do the post. Therefore, I'll list those now to leave this on a positive note... I'm first of all thankful for life and for having a loving God who sees fit for me to continue to live. I'm very thankful for my son and how being his mother has allowed me to grow as a person. I'm thankful for my friends and family who I can depend on to support me and be real with me, yet still respect me as well. I'm thankful for my independent attitude and my nature to do things myself rather than waiting around for someone else to do them for me. I'm thankful for my means of providing for Trey and the fact that he has everything he needs. And to sum this all up, I'm thankful for where I've come from to get where I am, and the future that God has planned for me that's bigger than what I can see with my own eyes :)

I hope everyone has a #PositiveMonday!!

XOXO,

LaBellaBoss ♥

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[Positive Monday] Give Thanks

Kanye rocking his shades at a previous Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade *throws shades on*

Happy Monday Bosses and Boss Chics! I hope everyone had a good weekend and is getting prepared for the upcoming holiday! Thanksgiving is one of my favorite times of the year... of course I love to eat, but I also enjoy the family time that comes with this holiday. Last year my friend Ashley blogged on here about what she was thankful for to get everyone in the holiday spirit. My friend Tia and I commented following up with what we're thankful for as well. If you'd like, you can click here to go back and read that blog.

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[Boss Books] One Day It'll All Make Sense



If you check my All About Me section on the blog, you will notice that I'm an avid reader. I will read anything, and I'll read the same book more than once if I can't find anything new that interests me. I recently bought myself a kindle so I can keep up with all my books a little better. Since I got that for myself, I've read a good 15 books or more. What can I say, I'm a book worm lol.

The most recent book I've read is a memoir by Common of his own life titled One Day It'll All Make Sense. This book was hard for me to put down from beginning to end. This compelling story of how a young black boy from the streets of Chicago paved his own way to become a successful rapper/actor. His mother provided him a pretty good life in southside Chicago and made sure that he went to a good school. However, he like any other young man got into his share of trouble coming up in the streets. His memoir told of physical altercations that surrounded him in his prime, some of which ended in a trigger being pulled. Luckily he made it out by going off to college at Florida A&M. Sadly not all of his friends made it out of the streets alive.

 He started each chapter of his life with a letter of someone important to him. Some of those started with letters to some of his best friends he lost throughout his life. Since he didn't graduate from college, it goes on to show how he worked his way up in the entertainment industry by pure hard work. He didn't get a free pass at all on his journey, yet he never gave up. There were a few times in life that he sacrificed himself and his beliefs for the sake of others and for love, but in the end he found a way to remain true to himself and still do what he loves.

Not only does he touch on the struggles of an every day black male, he also gives it to you 100% real. He speaks on the hurt that comes with abortion, the struggles of raising a child at a young age, and he also gives light to how the music industry works behind the scenes. And for those of you who love to get the scoop on any and everything, he also speaks about his relationships with both Erykah Badu and Serena Williams... I really appreciated this book as it's hard to get a male's perspective on life at times. Common is a very respectable man who I've always been a fan of. I love how the book shows how he become a more "conscious" rapper as he grew in life. This memoir was really enlightening and worth the read. If you're a reader this is definitely one you should add to your list!

XOXO,

LaBellaBoss ♥

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[Positive Mondays] Put ME First



*throws shades on* What's up Bosses and Boss Chics! It's Monday again *yawns* but at least we all know we'll be bringing in the week on a positive note right? Right :) The fact that there was light outside on my way to work this morning put me in the best mood! That may sound simple, but you have no idea how hard it is to get out of the bed and get ready for work when it's still dark outside. Then to look outside and see all your neighbors' lights are still out? Pshhht it's for the birds lol, but lo and behold there was light this morning! I couldn't help but to appreciate the time change.

To add to my great morning, I had a great weekend as well. I actually got to RELAX. Let me reiterate that. I never get to sleep in late or just do nothing. My son is a fireball of energy so he always keeps me on my toes, but this weekend I got a little break. I got a little cleaning done, watched numerous movies, and even slept until 3 pm yesterday LOL. I hadn't slept that late probably since high school, but it was much needed and well deserved.

Sleeping in made me realize how much I'm always on the go. Even when I'm at home I'm always doing something like catering to Trey, doing homework, housework, or something! My mind is never really clear for the most part, and I realized that I need to take more time out for myself. Sometimes we can get so wrapped up in life's duties that we don't take time for ourselves and we tend to burn out. I think that was my problem last week when I couldn't really think of anything I wanted to write about. It really doesn't take much to give yourself some "me time". Even if it's just going to a movie, a solo lunch, the nail salon, or sleeping in all day... we ALL should take that time out for ourselves on a regular basis.

I'm the type of person who is never satisfied with my work. I could be doing a million things and I'll still be wondering if there is something else I can pick up as a hobby or job in the mix of it all. This can be a pretty rewarding attitude to have, but at the same time it's also tiring. Whenever I do take breaks or take days where I don't do anything, I start to feel like I'm slacking. But after this weekend, my opinion of that changed. How can you really enjoy what you work for if you don't take the TIME to do so?? Don't over work yourself when you know that you already give your all, it will be hard to appreciate everything in the long run if you tire yourself out in the process!

XOXO,
LaBellaBoss ♥

SN: Don't you just love the pics of Lady Gaga with her shades on? I don't think anyone's collection is better than hers lol. Anywho make sure you throw your shades on and keep blocking out negativity for #PositiveMondays!

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[Positive Mondays] Please Don't Shoot Me Down

Throw your shades on for #PositiveMonday!! I hope everyone had a good day today to start off a good week, sorry I'm a little late on the post for today. I usually do these in the mornings between calls while I'm at work, but lately I haven't had much spare time. Anywho, I know I said I was going to do a video for every Positive Monday post to go along with the theme, however this post was something that I really wanted to put out there and I couldn't think of a song to go with it lol.

I was watching Lala's show earlier tonight where she had a conversation with her cousin Dice about her sexuality. Lala was basically telling Dice that she shouldn't worry about what other people would say about her having a girlfriend, she just needs to forget the rest and make herself happy. This inspired my post today because so many people I know, including myself, hinder ourselves from doing what we really want in life because we're afraid of what people will think.

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Violence Must Be Stopped

I just got the most disturbing news that someone from my hometown city was shot and killed tonight in an act of violence. I didn't know him very well other than from word of mouth and from being at the same places at the same time, but it touched my heart nonetheless. Check this... I live in a city of probably less than 30,000 people where everyone knows everyone. So when a death occurs, it impacts the whole community.

This guy was only 21 years old (younger than me) when he lost his life. This only made me think of my cousin Delvin who was only 19 when he was killed. Mind you that was over ten years ago. What does this tell us? Ten years later, violence is STILL a huge factor in our community, and it's even more sad because it's mostly between blacks only. So what is our problem? There's a question no one has any answers to!

I don't think our young men of today realize that once someone is killed, there are two lives that are really taken. One person will never get their's back, and the other will spend countless years behind bars. Don't we deserve better than this? I think so! There's really no excuse for the violent acts that take place in the world. So what if a dude looked at you funny, or if someone has more than you, or if there's a dispute over money?? Trust me money can't go with you if you're behind bars nor can it go with you to the grave. I think the young men in America today tend to get distracted by the hype they hear in music, see in videos, and hear about in the streets that they forget the importance of life. There's no way in hell you could ever enjoy these luxuries if you're not here to witness them, let alone take someone else's life.

I want to be one of those in my city who takes a stand against violence. I don't want to be wondering which one of my son's friends will get murdered in ten years. I don't want to have to worry about his well being in the streets either. This HAS to stop. I'm reaching out to my readers to get opinions on what can be done to stop the violence? If you have ANY suggestions or are willing to be apart of maybe a team to bring attention to violence in the city, let me know! You can leave a comment here after the post, or email me at dhairston89@gmail.com. If we don't stand for anything, we'll fall for nothing and God knows we are better than that!

XOXO,

LaBellaBoss ♥

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[Positive Mondays] Sky Is The Limit



Happy Monday bosses and boss chics! I hope everyone had a good weekend and is in a positive mood this beautiful Monday morning :) It was such a struggle for me to get up this morning! My best friend Tia and I went to Richmond to help out our other best friend Ashley with a fashion show she worked in this weekend. She's interning for a magazine called Quail Belle, and they had a fantasy fashion show this weekend at her school VCU. Our other best friend Portia also came out to help as a dresser/stylist for the show.

We left Saturday morning around 9:30 am and got back last night around 10 pm. That 3 hour drive is NO JOKE in two days, but it was well worth it to be able to support such a deserving friend. I even got a dose of what it's like to be a part of the fashion industry behind the scenes; it was so mind boggling how talented people are in the fashion world! There's no way I could ever work under that pressure and at such a fast pace! It was fun seeing how everything goes down to put shows together and make them work.

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[Positive Monday] Cherish What You Have While You Have It

*throws shades on*

Happy Monday or should I say #PositiveMonday to be exact! My weekend was great, but it went by way too fast! I suggest we all start and sign a petition stating that the work week begins on Tuesday, leaving Friday-Monday for the weekends. All in favor say "I" lmao!

On a more serious note, I decided to start doing Positive Mondays a little different and try to leave you guys with a positive song for the week after each post. The song is supposed to tie in with the total message of the post as a whole, and hopefully will leave a little inspiration for each week.

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[Positive Monday] Keep Your Head Up

Since I already have a motivational post up for the day, I won't talk you to death in this post for #PositiveMonday. However I did want to leave you guys with a positive song for the day to maybe help you get through the week. This is one song that I listen to all the time whenever I feel like I need an emotional boost. The positivity in this song is so great and so inspiring, and the way Pac delivers the lyrics cannot be duplicated by any other. He was definitely the voice of hip hop back in the 90's, and his messages spoke volumes. Catch the motivational video for the week above, maybe you can add this to your playlist whenever you're having a rough day.... Keep ya head up :)

"Cause I think we can make it, in fact, I'm sure... and if you fall, stand tall and come back for more"

XOXO,

LaBellaBoss ♥

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[Positive Monday] The ReMixed Life Campaign

I have had the wonderful chance of being able to help someone who inspires me to be all that I can, and it would only be right to share that experience with you! Neycha, who is an artist with a beautiful voice, is someone that I'm thankful to have had the chance to know personally. She's a very inspiring person and has a very big heart. She is the type of person who is always looking for what she can do to help someone else, and I don't think I've ever heard her say or do anything negative towards anyone else.

When she asked me to help promote this project for her, I quickly agreed to assist. She has started a campaign called The ReMixed Life to further inspire people in life. She works with adults in the field of personal growth, helping them to get their lives back on track after life altering circumstances. She says "she wants to get away from behind the desk and reach out to people from the stage again" as she once has before.

She plans to put her story into the form of an album as well as a short film. Neycha is asking that everyone donate $21 to help her raise $10,000 in 21 days (which isn't asking for much at all!) The funds are going to be used towards the makings of the album as well as the short film, as she will need studio time, producers, etc. I'm hoping that everyone will become a part of this movement, and even if you can't donate you can help get the word out about the project through social networking.

Make sure you watch the video above, that alone will show just how creative miss Neycha is! That VOICE is amazing and inspiring in itself! I'm anxious to see the finished results of The ReMixed Life campaign, I already know she will deliver! You can view the full page for her campaign here... Are you inspired yet?? #PositiveMondays :)

XOXO,

LaBellaBoss ♥

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We Like To Party!



Coming up on November 11th, the Boss Chic Files' one year anniversary will be upon us! I seriously can't believe it's been a year already since I started this blog! There will be a lot of changes and new segments added to the blog to relaunch it after the one year anniversary. You can expect different contests, interviews, a section on food and wine, plus more! We will start giving out prizes to our most loyal readers, as well as hold contests to give out random gifts to show our appreciation!

One of the main things we having coming up is a party for the one year anniversary. It will be here in my hometown in Martinsville, VA on November 19th. The location is currently undisclosed, but of course my bosses and boss chics will be the first to know about it! I'm even planning to give away a few free tickets to some of my readers who are not in this area but would like to come party with us anyway :)

Things are definitely about to pick up for the blog, so you have to make sure you stay tuned for everything that's in store! Also if there are any people out there trying to get started like me who specialize in fashion designing, making jewelry, or have anything DOPE you want to get out there, you can email me at dhairston89@gmail.com and I'll see what I can do for you! I've done different blogs in the past to help people get their names out there, and I definitely don't mind helping people when I feel like they have something to bring to the table.

Stay bossy, never basic!!

XOXO,

LaBellaBoss ♥

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[Positive Monday] Memories Last A Lifetime

My mommy and I <3



It's Monday again *weeps* lol I'm kidding! I actually don't even mind being up and at work today even though it was still dark outside when I got here O_0... For the first time in who knows how long, Trey was actually awake when I dropped him off at school this morning. He goes on to ask me "Mama why is it dark outside?" Lol! I tried to explain to him that when the seasons change it stays dark longer, but he didn't understand. Kids are too funny!

Speaking of my little man, unfortunately he's pretty much accident prone like his mama and is always getting hurt in some kind of way. (I'm hoping he'll grow out of this!!) I got a call from his teacher on Friday while I was at work saying that Trey had hurt his arm at school. He was apparently playing on the carpet sitting down, and one of his friends were running around and ran into his arm which caused his wrist and hand to bend backwards. I initially thought it was broken because his teacher said he wouldn't move it. After he kept complaining to her about it, I got off work and took him to the doctor. Him being the dramatic child that he is, had me carrying him into the doctor's office, then into the hospital where they had to do his xray. Luckily nothing was broken or fractured, but they gave him a wrist brace to wear for a few days. I can't help but thank God that it wasn't more serious! (God knows I can't deal with being his nurse for too long, I'm telling ya'll he is EXTREME when he's hurt!! LOL)

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