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I'm not sure if I'm alone on this, but I have a serious pet peeve with ex girlfriends and new girlfriends all of a sudden becoming close friends. Of course there are some situations where this may be acceptable, but for the most part I think it's unnecessary. If you weren't cool with each other before, why start now? Hear me out...
Nine times out of ten, one of the girls in this situation is befriending the other for selfish reasons. The new girlfriend could possibly be trying to get information from the ex about her man. Naturally if you're "friends" you're gonna be talking about the man you BOTH have had, and what better person to get all the scoop from than his ex girlfriend?? Also by befriending the ex girlfriend, the new girlfriend can learn things about her man she may not know yet. Sometimes it takes men a long time to expose themselves and their true colors, so the ex girlfriend can provide information that has yet to be discovered.
Now the new chick is probably in it for selfish reasons as well, however her objective is different. Women (whether we like to admit it or not) are jealous creatures. Even if she doesn't wanna get back with her ex, she can still be spiteful to mess up what he has with his new girlfriend. Think about it like this, maybe the new chick is having problems with the guy and the ex is filling her head up and telling her about all the good things that he used to do for her. It may not even be intentionally, but all it takes is for the ex to mention one thing that he did for her... Especially if the new girlfriend doesn't get the same treatment.
On the other hand this could work two ways. Say the guy is treating the new girlfriend way better than he treated the ex. She starts feeling some type of way. Perhaps she never really lost feelings for him. By the new girlfriend telling the ex everything he's doing for her, she might make the ex want him back. Now what if he isn't over the ex either? Ole girl would be SOL lmao... You have to be realistic in situations like this, especially being the current girlfriend. It's a huge possibility that this so called friendship could hurt your relationship in the long run, so think before you make moves.
As I've stated in previous posts, friendships and relationships are built based on trust. There's no way I would be able to trust my ex's current girlfriend or my current boyfriend's (if I had one) ex girlfriend. First of all, they weren't around you beforehand, so how do you know you can trust them? You don't, therefore I wouldn't even put myself in that situation. Now I'm not saying you have to be mad and hold grudges over a guy AT ALL, but it's ok to speak and keep it moving. Too many females try to be friends with every girl they meet, remember not everyone is meant to be your friend!
If you were in this situation would you want to be friends with your ex boyfriend's current girlfriend? How about being friends with your current boyfriend's ex girlfriend? Let us know what you think!