"The hardest part of this business is minding your own." *Drake voice* I'm not one to preach or lecture, but I could go innn on this topic for DAYS. We ALL are guilty of interfering in other people's lives, worrying about others, and even talking about others. Yes I admit to being guilty of this as well, but it's not something to be proud of. A lot of times though, we may get involved in others' business simply out of caring for that person; then again majority of the time we're just being plain nosey aka gossiping. However I do believe there is a difference between gossiping and "girl talk".
Every woman has a specific "clique" she chills with, confides in, parties with... you know, her main girls. We also know what happens in the midst of girl talk. Someone brings up a random person which is followed by "oh what is he/she doing now", "I heard...", "Girl shut up..." etc. Get my drift?? Now this is where the difference between gossip and girl talk comes to play. When you're with your specified crew, of course you're going to talk about the current happenings in the area, who's doing what, you know the regular discussions between girlfriends. I for one think this is perfectly normal. People always say stay in your own lane and don't worry about others... WHATEVER, lets be realistic. I think "girl talk" is fine because these are the chics you hang with on the regular. You TRUST them... hopefully enough to know what is said between you all will not leave the circle.
Now on the other hand, we have gossiping. *sigh* gossiping is a big difference from girl talk. Gossiping is sitting in the break room talking to co-workers about others or going into details about others with people you only speak to or associate with.... Basically if you know you don't get down with that person like that, don't feed into the gossip from them or give any in return. If you wouldn't even talk about your own life to these people, there is definitely no need to discuss others' lives with them. Also you have to think, why would they feel the need to discuss this with me of all people?? That's a set up waiting to happen. Once again, I'm sure we all have been guilty of this as well *raises hand* but you learn from it and grow. Nine times out of ten, talking about the wrong person TO the wrong person will backfire and cause you to get in some drama you never intended to be in.
At the end of the day, it's all about trusting the right people, and using good judgment in who you say things around. It's easier said than done to not talk about anyone at all, but #letsbehonest it's what society does. You don't even have to down talk anyone else, but at some point or another other people's names come up in coversations. Shoot some people put their names out there and give you reason to talk #justsayin. Also never gossip about chics you roll with to the other chics in the crew. You never know if one person out the group will tell what was said, just by trying to look out for the other or possibly to stir up drama. Know who to trust, and know who to avoid!
Do you agree that there's a difference between girl talk and gossip?? And how many of you are willing to admit to being guilty?? Hit us up with comments and thoughts!